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Moral Government's avatar

When I first signed up for okcupid 10 years ago my recent ex was my top match. Oof. I was hard core on my profile, I listed the characteristics I wanted in a husband and made it clear that I was looking for marriage and children. My friends criticized me, said I was scary away guys, I said that was the point. I didn’t want just any guy, I wanted the right guy. My now husband was a 97% match with me. He was so into my weirdo self that instead of messaging me online he stalked me, found me on Facebook and showed up to an event I rsvped to and asked me out in person. We recently had our 10 year wedding anniversary.

Interestingly I met my best friend through a guy we both matched with who friendzoned us both. He was too good looking for us. Lol But he suggested we be friends because we had so much in common, it’s kinda freaky. We even had kids only months apart from each other.

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Wasserschweinchen's avatar

I don't think your strategy applies to Tinder-style apps – which currently dominate the market. A male on such apps can only message the women who have swiped right, which is typically a small enough group that filtering is not an issue. The goal for normal males on such apps is thus to maximize the number of interesting females who swipe right – the cost of dealing with uninteresting females who swipe right is minuscule in comparison. I think the best strategy for most males on such apps would be to get professional assistance with photographs and profile creation, and possibly also with texting, which is the second great filter before the actual date. Oddly enough, this industry doesn't appear to have taken off yet.

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